We have hit a decision time or feel like we have. We want more kids. We are going to adopt them as we are a bit old for the other way. We have been on the list for over a year for a local special needs adoption. So far while our case study has been submitted several times we have not been given a child or children. Part of the problem there is we want a young child (our DS2 is almost 4 and we prefer he be the oldest or close to it. So we can
1) Continue to hold our breath every time our case study is submitted
2) Try foster care but then you have the heartbreak of having to return the child and sometimes you are returning them to a bad environment. And there is no guarentee you will ever get one that is adoptable.
3)Try an overseas adoption which is lots of money although we could get a discount on the international case study since we have one done for the US so that drops the price by a thousand. Which makes it "only" 12 to 15 thousand. We would have to borrow that much to do it but then we would be able to get one or two children that are young and the waiting would have an end probably by the end of the year or beginning of next year. Unfortunately we don't have enough equity in th ehouse to get that much by doing a second mortgage or it would already be done. Wish I had a rich friend I'd borrow it!
The other option is to stop now but we don't want to go that route.
I guess I am feeling more frustrated because this month is th eanniversary of when our case study was finished and while our names have been submitted a few times nothing has come of any of it.
I have a 4 bedroom house and I'd like to decorate a couple of them for kids!
Decisions
May 17th, 2007 at 08:53 pm
May 17th, 2007 at 09:43 pm 1179438236
May 17th, 2007 at 10:01 pm 1179439302
I guess my whole point of all this is you may want to give fostering a try. If it is too much, it is too much. You can always change your mind later.
I also know quite a few people who adopted oevrseas. It does have its pluses.
Oh good luck. Talk about decisions!
May 17th, 2007 at 11:02 pm 1179442928
I wish you success in whatever route you proceed with.
May 18th, 2007 at 01:32 am 1179451954
Our states foster to adopt program holds the costs down to between $700 and $1000 per child. Pretty good compared to other programs where it seems like you should be purchasing the entire country for what it costs for one child.
Receiving care and/or respite care is another way to fill up your house, and help kids at the same time. Some of these kids will end up on the adoptable roles too. Receiving care is doing emergency care when there are no permenant foster homes available, and respite care assists foster homes by taking their kids when they need a break or have medical or emergency situations.
Good luck with your decision whatever way you go.
May 18th, 2007 at 02:55 am 1179456942
May 18th, 2007 at 03:45 pm 1179503125
http://members.shaohannahshope.org/site/PageServer
Here it is found it! Bless you.