When my DH and I first embarked on the adventure of adoption we were warned that it taeks years for the children to feel "really secure" WE were told about a child who 18 months (almost to the day of arrival at his adoptive parents house) packed his bags because that was the longest he'd ever stayed anywhere. I thought that adopting a 1 year old would prevent our going through that. Boy was I wrong!!!! My MIL came to see her grandson last month. I hadn't even considered that there would be a problem although we had realized that it has been about a year we have been his parents. After enduring a screaming session the likes of which I have never seen (nor want to again) he asked me to send Grandma home and said he'd be good. I was confused until he asked me to stay with him. I still couldn't believe a little one could imagine that we would give him up until the next day when I told him we were taking Grandma to the dock so she could catch the boat home (she had decided to leave early when we realized he was upset) and he said, "I have go too? I want stay wif Mommy and Daddy, I be good." It broke our hearts. We held him and explained that we are his parents and he didnt' have to go with Grandma. He has been his usual sunny self since.
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